Head Down Heels Up

The mentality of the average pimp shown is sickening to say the least. Some have a misconception that the ladies they pimp on are expendable. Almost as bad if not worse than the way our women and girls are viewed by cops and customers. The street pimp mantra of head down heels up has been replaced by happy hookers with head up heels down. While this show of empowerment is indeed empowering, it is disheartening to see that the men they dedicate themselves to wholeheartedly refuse to acknowledge them as the precious jewels they truly are. I realize some on the outside looking in will wonder, why, if these women are so precious, don't the pimps try to talk them out of working completely? While that is a very sweet sentiment there is this thing called reality, and this reality being most of these women are going to continue to be prostitutes no matter who they go home to at the end of the day. In fact for some the mere mention of wanting them to quit sets an immediate defense barrier against you, because now she can no longer be sure you except her in every way. She is aware that you being with her is risky legally even without paying you. Even her asking for a ride to see a customer, while a misdemeanor for her although she will do all of the work and commit the crime on her own free will, is a felony for her significant other. Which leaves them in a position to want to be sure that man really wants to be there.
It is hard emotionally to cater to a prostitute without learning the game from all angles. Meaning you have to be able to understand the frame of mind of Johns, pimps, and prostitutes, and engage with her on all levels socially at least. Then you must also be able to engage with them as a friend, lover, critic, and even therapeutically. A pimp and prostitute relationship should go beyond her getting money from a john and in turn handing that same money to a pimp in order to be with that person. What is being done when the order remains this way is just a cycle of total prostitution. The prostitute becomes a bigger John than her Johns, thereby turning her pimp into a bigger prostitute than she is. She expects sex, love, affection, attention, companionship, full support, protection, intelligent guidance, answers, and so much more from her pimp than she would from any John and makes that clear by wanting to give him more at one time than any John gives her. Also, while the Johns are more likely paying the prostitutes to leave, she pays her pimp to stay. If the relationship only consists of her getting money just to give away with no return on her investment in the ways I described, she will most likely seek that elsewhere. If she stays you can almost be sure there is some sort of force or fear involved. Or she may be tired of starting over and will stick it out hoping for a change that deep down she knows will never manifest.
The pimp culture that is shown on TV, in the news, and even in most songs only show the negative side, but will not reveal that there are less negative pimp/prostitute relationships than there are positive. Only the positive side never makes the news because it is not sensational enough. They could not get funding to fight all of these phantom abuse and kidnap human trafficking victims if they came out and said that MOST women are in prostitution voluntarily. Not all are on drugs, and most hookers advocate safe sex whereas a lot of square girls will have bare sex just to get her phone turned on. There are men who allow their girl to work and do not take any of the money. No different than a stripper or porn star who has a boyfriend. The only difference is if a porn actress gets a ride to a porn shoot, even though she is being paid to have sex with a stranger on her own free will, the same as a prostitute, her boyfriend will never get in any trouble. So for a prostitute finding someone who actually wants to be there for them and not just the money, is extremely important.
There is a stigma that comes with being a pimp who actually loves his girl/s. They are outcast and called simps, meaning overly sympathetic to the feelings of his girl/s. So it becomes almost embarrassing to express any feelings that would indicate any love and affection. This causes a pimp to talk to his girl/s any kind of way, calling her out of her name, using menacing tones, refusing to allow her to refer to him as anything not pimp related. This especially occurs in front of other pimps and prostitutes. While a pimp may be the sweetest person to his women behind closed doors, you may only see a side of him that makes you wonder why his women stay at all. I have witnessed a pimp lose his mind because his girl called him babe in front of a new girl. I almost had to stop the interview (and would have had it gotten physical), but was honestly eager to see how it played out. The girl, while referred to as multiple different kinds of bitches, hos, maggots, and faggots, never lost her composure and aside from a soft spoken apology, offered no other retort. I was speechless. I was speechless because maybe twenty minutes earlier while we were waiting for the new girl to arrive for the interview, his main girl called him babe many times and he never flinched.
I feel that many pimps purposely follow a stereotype because they truly believe that persona is what attracts the most prostitutes, or a certain kind of prostitute. As crazy as it may sound some of these women want the hardest pimp they can find. Even to the point of provoking violence to seek out an answer as to whether or not her pimp actually cares enough about her to risk his freedom to show it. The same way she risks not only her freedom, but her health, sanity, and life for him. I believe pimps and prostitutes take the same risks for each other. True the dynamics are different, but you can search and see how many pimps have been killed defending their girl. How many pimps have went to jail picking his girl up or just watching her as she works. Yes, you cannot even watch her to make sure she is ok, that is a felony in most places.
When you understand these risks, from both sides, it makes you wonder how a man who has been gifted this dedication from someone who is mentally and emotionally fragile, could possibly not have love and appreciation for her. How can he not feel excited every time she calls, every time she walks through that door alive and well. How can he not want to show the world that she is an amazing addition to his life? In short the truth is they believe they are not supposed to. That's not "pimping".
On the other hand a prostitute will leave the same man who has risked it all to be there for her, at the drop of a hat, for a pretty car, an out of town trip, or just because she likes the way another pimp looks. There's a reason for the saying, " colder than a hooker's heart ", and I honestly think the women in the game can be just as cold as the men if not colder in some instances, but that's another story I may actually write about soon.
So when you see the pimps who do show that love publicly, who doesn't have to be called daddy, or king so and so, mac such and such, and who can just be himself, what you will be witnessing is someone who has accepted his true position in her life as everything, because it takes everything to save and protect these ladies. If you're not willing to be everything then you are not worthy of being anything to these women. I'm not foolish enough or dirty enough to want to separate prostitutes from pimps because I know that is an actual natural combination and no one can complete one like the other. However there is a duty that must be upheld, and it goes far beyond just having your palms out. Definitely much further than keeping her head down and her heels up.